tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7131844.post7289329282157087027..comments2024-02-28T19:37:14.696+01:00Comments on moments of perfect clarity: tell me lies, tell me sweet little liesjulochkahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10884096685015570257noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7131844.post-79609955118778721222012-06-08T14:18:54.590+02:002012-06-08T14:18:54.590+02:00I wondered where this introspection was coming fro...I wondered where this introspection was coming from and/or going. I think most of us look at our behaviors now and then and try to sort out the negatives. I have one white lie I have told several times, it bothers me, for sure, but I am protecting someone who cannot protect themselves. I will continue to do it, it will continue to bother me but there you have it. I have been on a personal project for about a year to refrain from the little white lies, but human nature, being as it is, makes it impossible to totally purge the habit. <br /><br />As for the horse people, as already posted, its a different world. I had a rude awakening there several years ago. I chose to not participate. "Friends" like that, I do not need. You did the right thing to extricate yourself. And as mentioned before, it would likely had made no difference anyway.celkaleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00641540970773683454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7131844.post-276733803361233452012-06-08T11:41:46.390+02:002012-06-08T11:41:46.390+02:00I'm with Lynne, white lies lead to bigger lies...I'm with Lynne, white lies lead to bigger lies and lying very easily becomes a habit. And trust is a very, very fragile thing.<br />I used to be a serial white-liar, but I took the immensely liberating decision a number of years ago not to lie anymore and it's been so good for me. I renewed that pledge once I had kids and promised myself I'll never lie to them. Even to questions like 'is the chocolate finished?', when it would be so much easier to just say yes, I steel myself and tell the truth. If I sound self-congratulatory I don't intend to, not lying is hard but the saying the truth will set you free is so, so true.<br />So however will shaking things off and moving on - leave the small-minded people at the pony club in your emotional dust, they don't sound like they deserve any more of your energy.c is for cape townhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06446052175321718555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7131844.post-15714884304675408912012-06-08T08:48:09.015+02:002012-06-08T08:48:09.015+02:00Sure you could have said something but you live in...Sure you could have said something but you live in a small community, still needed the ridingfacility for your daughter and yourself, you are a newcomer and you are a foreigner. Pretty good reason to keep your mouth shut.Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03470810820417327936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7131844.post-3748751309669197722012-06-08T07:23:36.724+02:002012-06-08T07:23:36.724+02:00The problem with the 'white lies' is that ...The problem with the 'white lies' is that they can become second nature. I am working now with a person who lies as a first option whenever she is confronted with anything. The frustrating thing is that the lies are usually very transparent. And the result is now that I do not believe anything she says.Lynnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00740400573089418021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7131844.post-29698463682486993272012-06-08T05:21:52.803+02:002012-06-08T05:21:52.803+02:00First, let me say as someone who has spent a lifet...First, let me say as someone who has spent a lifetime in the horse business: horse people are crazy. All of us, so when you feel sane, you know who you are dealing with are certifiable and trying to reason with them is true insanity. So don't spend too much time kicking yourself over that one. Been there, done that, never made a difference.<br /><br />White lies are how we protect ourselves and others. If I were stupid enough to ask if my butt is big, you probably would not say yes. You'd say, no, it's really not. We would both know it is, but, you know......<br /><br />Life is a series of white lies. I think harmless white lies. Black lies harm, white lies protect and cover. If you told me my butt is big, it wouldn't help me grow. My butt is doing that all on its own, thank you very much. But it could be hurtful, depending on who you are talking to and really would serve no purpose.<br /><br />As far a horse club, forget about it. I go back to my first sentence; horse people are crazy. I believe this is a universal truth. Take a deep breath and repeat this as a mantra. You'll feel better.Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13915962999372304054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7131844.post-56681819390373609362012-06-08T04:47:20.443+02:002012-06-08T04:47:20.443+02:00Mostly it's to save someone's feelings. A...Mostly it's to save someone's feelings. And my own. I remember when my now grumpy teenager was a crazy handful of a little boy. I used to say "Good Morning! I'm so happy to see you!" When I wanted to say "Couldn't you sleep in just this once?"Barbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02312207507936646771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7131844.post-14647073700379467042012-06-08T04:12:53.259+02:002012-06-08T04:12:53.259+02:00Sometimes I tell people I'm doing well when I&...Sometimes I tell people I'm doing well when I'm not. It's just easier, you know?Sarah Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11525949118660493801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7131844.post-49471117153612967402012-06-07T23:57:55.110+02:002012-06-07T23:57:55.110+02:00I understand black and white (and excluding horrid...I understand black and white (and excluding horrid, evil stuff) it seems most everything is a shade of gray.<br /><br />Husserl wrote about stripping away reasons and rationales for an action to discover the primal, molar point from which a person's actions derive. It's a tough thing to do, being totally honest with one's self.willhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15590217997145761582noreply@blogger.com