Monday, January 14, 2013

be kind to yourself

reading a friend's facebook feed as she reported on the golden globes made me sad. she marveled at the glamour of the dresses and makeup, but actually said outright that it made her feel horrible about herself and her appearance. she's a gorgeous woman with no reason to allow some couture-clad hollywood starlet with stylist and make-up person to make her feel anything, let alone ugly or unworthy. of course those people look awesome as they walk up the red carpet. it's their job to do so.

women. why do we do this to ourselves? we are so hard on ourselves (and on each other for that matter). envy rears its ugly head and leaves us feeling shattered and insecure. what is it that keeps us from resting in ourselves, content with who we are and where we are? and why can't we see another beautiful woman without being consumed with envy and self-loathing? honestly, people, men don't do this to themselves or one another. and it's time we stopped too.

i say we practice being a little kinder to ourselves and the women around us this week. it's about time.

happy monday!


Spilling Ink said...

2013 is the year we all allow ourselves to shine! :)

Everydaythings said...

wish there was a 'like' button to press here for this post like there is on FB - cos I so agre with what youve said!

Anonymous said...

This sort of thing has been on my mind a lot lately. I've gained about 30 pounds in the last 5 years or so and although I still think I look pretty good, I'm constantly catching myself thinking I should be stick thin like I used to be. I'm actually much more comfortable now...I was so skinny because I was always miserable. My extra weight seems to symbolize my contentment. But I'm subtly being influenced by women's culture, almost subconsciously thinking I should be better, for no reason at all. Insecurity is not attractive but more importantly, it isn't a fun feeling to have. So you're right! Why do women always want to look like someone else? It's just silly.

Veronica Roth said...

Your poor friend. Hope she gets a better head on in a while. I have a friend who's a Hollywood actress and she even has her muscles enhanced with make-up when she walks the red carpet. She looks lovely but it's all an illusion.